March 24th, 2007

roof me

Contend With Me

There's a hymn entreating "Abide With Me," right? There should be a "Contend With Me."

There's a couplet in JoJo's "Let Her Go Into the Darkness" in his condemnation of the lousy boyfriend:

        He don't challenge her;
        he don't contend with her.


---I like the underlying notion there. I like the idea that being contended with is to be desired, and is even, actually, essential for something. For something special. Only a few people can ---or (more to the point) would even want to--- really contend with you, you know? Maybe that's not true for you, whichever of you is reading right now. Maybe it's not even true of me, fully. And limited contention surely does have to do, somewhat, with how much one advertises an interest in contention.

Or with how picky one is about with whom one desires, herself, to contend. And by whom to be contended with.

I suppose I oughta go look up the word, thinking about it so much. ...

Okay, the straight definition doesn't capture the spirit I'm thinking of, but the etymology does. The word's from the Latin contendere, which is made up of com- (the joining word, the together word) + tendere, which means to stretch.

It's not always & only self-effacement to want to stretch for another, and not always & only disgustingly needy and boundaryless to desire and enjoy somebody else doing that for you. Love-phobes'll suggest it is, or fret along those lines, but they're fulla shit. In my estimation, that is. At the current level, anyway, of its courage---which [courage] means, as I've talked about before: heart.

Back to the cleaner-but-not-done kitchen now. Rustle up some breakfast & get on about the day. Good weekends unto all ya'll.
Evo

Happy 88th, Larry

Do you still have the Twinkie from when you were 28 days shy of 62? I love this poem of yours.


Recipe For Happiness Khaborovsk Or Anyplace


One grand boulevard with trees
with one grand café in sun
with strong black coffee in very small cups.

One not necessarily very beautiful
man or woman who loves you.

One fine day.


                -- Lawrence Ferlinghetti



Constantly risking absurdity myself, and glad of that phrase for it,

Lisa
kansas

basketball standings

Go KU! (Vs. what my brother & I used to say as kids, K-State fans: "P.U., KU!") (We were very clever.)

Name     TotalPts      MaxPts     BestFinish   WorstFinish
  DD           73             86             1               12
  MS          70            102             1               12
  NR           69            101             1               11
  BD           68             85             1               16
 ASH          67             99             1               13t
'Ff'lo         67             99             1               12t
  DB           65             97             1               16
  RK           65             93             1               14t
 AXH           64             96             1               15
  TC           63             95             1               16
   JR           62             94             1               18