March 19th, 2007

my eyeballing


> Rebecca's a "third-wave" feminist.
> so, y'know, not one.

ha  (attribution withheld to protect the not-so-innocent)

here's the controversy (never mind her relationship with her mother):

The most incendiary notion in "Baby Love" may be that, for Ms. Walker, being a stepparent or adoptive parent involves a lesser kind of love than the love for a biological child.

In an interview, Ms. Walker boiled the difference down to knowing for certain that she would die for her biological child, but feeling "not sure I would do that for my nonbiological child."

"I mean, it’s an awful thing to say," said Ms. Walker, who in a previous relationship helped rear a female partner’s biological son, now 14. "The good thing is he has a biological mom who would die for him."

Rebecca hasn't been any kind of hero to me, as I didn't know anything about her until now. But I agree with her about this: that IS an awful thing to say.

But maybe ultimately we're fortunate that there aren't more circumstances in which mothers have to die for their children. There are just lots of circumstances in which they seem to need to contemplate whether/that they would.